For theists to eschew the claim that life is designed is puzzling, because nothing seems to force them to adopt that counterintuitive stance.
Only a freely acting, designing agent resolves the mystery. Only such an agent creates, truly, ex nihilo.
Any appeal to accidental processes to accomplish an unbelievable coincidence is really just an appeal to unbelievable coincidence.
Equipping people to be “their own science referees” is a large part of the mission of the intelligent design movement.
As our dialogue continues, I think I’m starting to understand your position more clearly.